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 By Dr. Joel Murphy
 the same old patterns (see the editorial in this issue here). It is hard to run away from yourself. There are many techniques for removing or changing unwanted relaltionships patterns, like meditation, energy clearing, or Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP). Flower and gem essences accelerate every technique and often may be all that is needed. (Editors Note: Our September, 2000 issue is devoted to exploring how essences work with various modalities.)At Rain Flower Essence we have developed combination essences for many common relationship challenges and for major issues and emergencies that people face during divorce. We find divorce to be one of the most traumatic emotional experiences that both men and women face. In many ways divorce is more painful than losing a loved one to transition. Often people carry energetic and emotional scars for decades that could easily and quickly be healed with flower essences. It is helpful to work with a flower essence practitioner, but this is not always possible. Our combinations for the different stages of divorce include Releasing Divorce /Loss Anger, Healing From A Broken Heart, and Dissolving Feelings of Rejection.
Releasing Divorce/Loss Anger is for after you get past the shock of divorce, when you often feel anger...anger that can stay deep inside and shape the rest of your life, even cause illness. If not processed and released, this anger can color or destroy every new relationship. If children are involved, this anger can be especially damaging. Children are usually scared and confused by divorce, and seeing your anger toward your ex-spouse puts gasoline on the flames of their fears. This essence combination helps you gracefully dissolve this anger. It can be a reactive remedy, so you might feel waves of anger when taking this essence. Running, kickboxing, and other physical activity is a much more elegant release than, say, putting your fist through the wall, spiteful behavior or yelling at the kids. So get ready to exercise and dissolve the anger and get back to joy. Doors close and doors open -- enjoy, this is life.
Flower essence therapy is not for those who enjoy wallowing in the deep well of divorce anger, grief or self pity. Flower essence healing accelerates emotional and spiritual healing faster than any other healing modality that I have observed. Our time is so short in this plane of existence; why not make the best use of it and have some fun while experiencing life's lessons? By totally healing from divorce before venturing into new relationships you are in a emotional and spiritual place where you can co-create an even better relationship than your previous one. In this way, flower essences help us learn and evolve.
 About the Author: Dr. Joel Murphy has been a flower essence and homeopathic practitioner for 18 years. He does both individual sessions and internet flower essence coaching. He founded Rainflower Essences in 1995 and has made hundreds of new flower essences deep in the Peruvian Amazon Rainforest, Guatamala, Florida, Italy and California. He is a yoga and Reiki instructor and gives seminars on energy dowsing. He is Chief of Medicine and Surgery at the Animal & Bird Medical Center of Palm Harbor in Florida where he practices a blend of traditional and holistic veterinary medicine. He has authored four books, is a frequent television guest and lectured from California to Katmandu, Nepal. Art Credits: ArtToday.
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One frequently needed remedy is the Surprise Divorce Essence--a frequent experience for men in this culture. This is for when you think you've got a great marriage and surprise! You're getting divorced and your soul mate for life is headed out the door or having an affair with the karate instructor. For many the shock can be unbearable, and they may even become suicidal or violent. This essence combination can be a lifeline from the tidal wave of emotions this life experience can cause.
The Healing From A Broken Heart combination of flower essences is for getting you through that stage where your heart is broken and you don't feel you can ever love again. Some people stay stuck in this state for years or even a lifetime. This is a healing process and time is important, but there is always a slow way to heal and a fast way. This essence helps you choose the fast healing path. In addition,
divorce can sometimes leave one with low self esteem. It is important to process and dissolve these energies before moving on to a new relationship. The Dissolving Feeling of Rejection flower essence combination helps you address these emotions directly.